Child Abduction

The media has made the problem of child abduction much more visible over recent years.  Whether it is a stranger or parental abduction, the fear and trauma for the parents are immense.  Here you will find information on Child Abduction statistics, prevention and resources.

CHILD ABDUCTION STATISTICS
The National Incidence Studies
of Missing, Abducted, Runaway, and Thrownaway Children (NISMART)

A child was taken in violation of a custody agreement or degree, failed to return a child at the end of a legal or agreed-upon visit, with the child being away at least overnight. An attempt was made to conceal the taking, or the whereabouts of a child, or to prevent contact with the child. The child is transported out of state, or there is evidence that the abductor had the intent to keep the child indefinitely, or to permanently alter custodial privileges.

Attempted abductions, for example luring of a child for the purposes of committing another crime. Coerced and unauthorized taking of a child into a building, a vehicle, or a distance of more than 20 feet, the detention of a child for a period of more than one hour.

A child was taken in violation of a custody agreement or degree, failed to return a child at the end of a legal or agreed-upon visit, with the child being away at least overnight. An attempt was made to conceal the taking, or the whereabouts of a child, or to prevent contact with the child. The child is transported out of state, or there is evidence that the abductor had the intent to keep the child indefinitely, or to permanently alter custodial privileges.

More than 350,000 family abductions occur in the U.S. each year, that is nearly 1,000 per day !

163,000 of these cases involve the concealment of a child, transporting out of state, or intent to keep the child permanently.

The child has experienced serious mental harm in 16% of the cases (56,000)

The child has experienced physical abuse or harm in 8% of the cases

(The University of Maryland found a 24% incidence of physical abuse)

The child is sexually abused in 1% of the cases (The University of Maryland found a 7% incidence of sexual abuse)

Mothers flee with children in 54% of the cases

Fathers flee with children in 46% of the cases

In 1998, there will be an estimated 1 million divorces, affecting more than 1 million children

There are 10 million children, living with a single parent who is separated, or divorced 150,000 divorces, or 1 in 7 involve child custody battles

Today’s average marriage will last about seven years

Single-parent families has quadrupled since 1960

Divorces have tripled in numbers since 1960

Child Protection

As a society, our efforts to prevent crimes against children have not kept pace with the increasing vulnerability of our youngest citizens. After hearing the tragic stories about abducted or exploited children, most parents are surprised to learn that many crimes against children CAN BE PREVENTED. This brochure is about child protection. The messages in this guide, however, can be different from other safety and prevention instructions you have read. 

The most important key to child safety is effective communication with your child. Remember, children who are not listened to or who do not have their needs met in the home are more vulnerable to abduction or exploitation. The first step you should take is to establish an atmosphere in the home in which your child feels truly comfortable in discussing sensitive matters and in relating experiences in which someone may have approached the child in an inappropriate manner or in a way that made the child uncomfortable. The simple truth is that children are often too afraid or too confused to report their experiences and their fears. In some ways, you should treat your children as you would your adult friends -- allow them to talk freely about their likes and dislikes, their friends, their true feelings. 

Unfortunately, the rising awareness of crimes against children has left many families with a real sense of fear. You and your child need to be careful, but you do NOT need to be afraid. Talk to your child in a calm and reasonable manner, being careful not to discuss the frightening details of what might happen to a child who does not follow the safety guidelines. 

The Exploiter or Abductor: Not A "Stranger"

"Stay away from strangers" is a popular warning to children to prevent abduction or exploitation. Unfortunately, however, many children are abducted or exploited by people who have some type of familiarity with the children but who may or may not be known to the parents. 

The term STRANGER suggests a concept that children do not understand and is one that ignores what we do know about the people who commit crimes against children. It misleads children into believing that they should be aware only of individuals who have an unusual or slovenly appearance. Instead, it is more appropriate to teach our children to be on the lookout for certain kinds of SITUATIONS or ACTIONS rather than certain kinds of individuals. 

Children can be raised to be polite and friendly, but it is okay for them to be suspicious of any adult asking for assistance. Children help other children, but there is no need for them to be assisting adults. Children should not be asked to keep special secrets from their parents and, of course, children should not be asked to touch anyone in the bathing suit areas of their body or allow anyone to touch them in those areas. 

Often exploiters or abductors initiate a seemingly innocent contact with the victim. They may try to get to know the children and befriend them. They use subtle approaches that both parents and children should be aware of. Children should learn to stay away from individuals in cars or vans; and they should know that it is okay to say NO -- even to an adult. 

Remember, a clear, calm, and reasonable message about SITUATIONS and ACTIONS to look out for is easier for a child to understand than a particular profile or image of a "stranger."

What You Can Do To Prevent Child Abduction and Exploitation

• Know where your children are at all times. Be familiar with their friends and daily activities.
• Be sensitive to changes in your children's behavior; they are a signal that you should sit down and talk to your children about what caused the changes.
• Be alert to a teenager or adult who is paying an unusual amount of attention to your children or giving them inappropriate or expensive gifts.
• Teach your children to trust their own feelings, and assure them that they have the right to say NO to what they sense is wrong.
• Listen carefully to your children's fears, and be supportive in all your discussions with them.
• Teach your children that no one should approach them or touch them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable. If someone does, they should tell the parents immediately.
• Be careful about babysitters and any other individuals who have custody of your children.

As soon as your children can articulate a sentence, they can begin the process of learning how to protect themselves against abduction and exploitation. Children should be taught 

• If you are in a public place, and you get separated from your parents, don't wander around looking for them. Go to a checkout counter, the security office, or the lost and found and quickly tell the person in charge that you have lost your mom and dad and need help in finding them. 
• You should not get into a car or go anywhere with any person unless your parents have told you that it is okay.
• If someone follows you on foot or in a car, stay away from him or her. You don't need to go near the car to talk to the people inside.
• Grownups and other older people who need help should not be asking children for help; they should be asking older people.
• No one should be asking you for directions or to look for a "lost puppy" or telling you that your mother or father is in trouble and that he will take you to them.
• If someone tries to take you somewhere, quickly get away from him (or her) and yell or scream. "This man is trying to take me away" or "This person is not my father (or mother)."
• You should try to use the "buddy system" and never go places alone.
• Always ask your parents' permission to leave the yard or play area or to go into someone's home.
• Never hitchhike or try to get a ride home with anyone unless your parents have told you it is okay to ride with him or her.
• No one should ask you to keep a special secret. If he or she does, tell your parents or teacher.
• If someone wants to take your picture, tell him or her NO and tell your parents or teacher.
• No one should touch you in the parts of the body covered by the bathing suit, nor should you touch anyone else in those areas. Your body is special and private.
• You can be assertive, and you have the right to say NO to someone who tries to take you somewhere, touches you, or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way.

Because children cannot look out for themselves, it is our responsibility to look out for them. Every home and school should establish a program that effectively teaches children about safety and protection measures. As a parent, you should take an active interest in your children and listen to them. Teach your children that they can be assertive in order to protect themselves against abduction and exploitation. 

And, most important, make your home a place of trust and support that fulfills your child's needs -- so that he or she won't seek love and support from someone else. 

Information provided by The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC)

Resource Center

Missing Children Clearinghouse 1-800-TBI-FIND Tennessee Bureau of Investigation Criminal Intelligence

Personal Safety
ID Kits
Baby Prints

Personal Safety
ID Kits
Kid Prints

FBI Crimes Against Children Program

National Center for Missing and Exploited Children - 1-800-843-5678

What You Should Know About Protecting Your Child

• Don't let your child wear clothing with his or her name on it. A child will tend to pay attention to anyone calling him or her by name.

• Videotape and take photos of your child two or three times per year, including profile shots.

• Do not leave a child unattended while shopping, visiting with neighbors or friends, or running errands. Under no circumstances should you leave a child alone in a car or truck.

• Make sure your child always checks with you before going anywhere with anyone.

• Make sure your child learns his or her address and phone number at an early age. A second phone number of a friend or relative is also helpful.

• Teach your child how to make a collect phone call, and to begin with "Operator...I'm in trouble; I need your help."

• If your child is a latch-key kid, make sure that he or she knows to keep all doors and windows locked, never let anyone know that he or she is alone, and never let anyone in the house, not even someone claiming to be a police officer or from the fire department. Those kinds of professionals know to forcibly enter in case of an emergency.

• Have your child fingerprinted 

• Know whether your child is left or right handed.

• Keep a written record of all birthmarks, scars and identifying features, like moles or freckles.

• Keep a growth chart of your child; know his or her height.

• Make sure your child knows to scream and run if approached in an alarming way by anyone. Your child should be taught to ALWAYS tell you immediately if he or she is approached by a stranger who asks for help, offers candy/gifts, or frightens him/her in anyway. Your child should know to make you aware of anytime he or she feels uncomfortable with ANYONE.

Information provided by the Child Search.org